10 years of therapy in 1 minute

Chris Williams and Mark Manson summarize the most important lessons of therapy. The first seven are read by Chris to Mark in the video, the eighth comes from one of the comments below the video.

It is good, solid advice worth repeating from time to time to keep it top of mind — lest we forget. As Mark recounts from re-reading his own book ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck’ and realizing he was not handling his newfound fame well because he was giving a fuck.

1. No one is coming to save you. Being a functioning adult means realizing you are responsible for everything in your life, even if it wasn’t your fault.
2. Strong boundaries make for good relationships. Weak boundaries make drama.
3. Many of your problems don’t get fixed, you just learn how to live despite them.
4. Your mind lies to you all the time. It will tell you the world is ending when it’s not. That a mistake is fatal when it’s not. That everyone is thinking about you and laughing about you when they’re not. Learn to tell your mind to shut the fuck up.
5. Stop trying to convince people to like you. The right people won’t need to be convinced and everyone else will just get very annoyed.
6. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is let a dream die. No one likes to hear that, but it is true.
7. Only a few people in your life are going to matter in the long run. When you find them, treat them right, make time for them, keep them close, be grateful.
8. Grief is the price you pay for love, but love anyway because loving and being loved is the “ultimate, what matters most” experience in life.

Another comment says: “These 7 life lessons are very good. But like most advice, it won’t really hit unless you’ve got the related experience. Knowledge isn’t terribly useful without experience.”